Becoming Bullyproof through Self-Esteem

Posted: February 16, 2012 in A Broader look at Bullying, Advice for Parents

Self-esteem is the way we feel and think about ourselves, and it is a very key element in becoming bullyproof.  Webster’s dictionary defines it as “a confidence and satisfaction in oneself… belief in oneself [and] self-respect”. Self-esteem affects everything we do in our lives. Healthy self-esteem promotes a positive “Yes I Can” attitude, as opposed to a defeatist attitude of “No I Can’t”. Nowhere is this concept more important than in the life of a young child.

Children begin life helpless and dependent on their caregivers. In order to grow up to be happy and productive, they cannot stay that way. They must learn that they have a degree of control over their environment, and eventually, that they have more and more control over their own lives. They have to learn to have an attitude conducive to successful interaction with everything and everyone around them. Unfortunately, too many children today worry about failure, and it directs their energy in a negative verses positive direction. They doubt their strengths, feel insecure, unfocused, are overly critical of themselves, and often don’t believe that they can achieve success.

Poor self-esteem ends up negatively affecting everything children think, say, or do. On the other hand, children who feel good about themselves will produce positive results. Helping your children grow up with strong character and self-esteem is arguably the most important task of parenthood. The child with good self-esteem has the best chance of becoming a successful and happy adult. Fortunately, self-esteem can be dramatically improved in a child who, with the guidance and encouragement of his parents, teachers, and friends commits him/herself to the task of personal self-development.  And the more self-esteem a child has, the less likely he or she will be seen  as “bully bait” for teasing, or harassment from peers.  Positive behavior breeds more positive behavior, and it can have a snowball effect among groups.  Encourage your children to take some control over their environment and in their own lives!

Ryan Foland

Bully Buster OC


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s