Wow, things have been busy being a Bully Buster these days. I have not been able to share my thoughts and insights as frequently as I have wanted to, but I am still here and doing all kinds of great things in the fight against bullying.
Through my outreach I have met many inspiring youth who have stories of how bullying has effected them, and more importantly how they have overcome. I find all of their stories to be great resources for others, and I have decided to branch out and share some of them as guest writers. If you or someone you know is interested in becoming a guest blogger for the Bully Buster USA Bully Blog, please contact me at bullybusterusa@gmail.com. I do believe that sharing stories and thoughts on this matter can really help the writer and readers fostering great conversations on a nationwide level that will help kids and parents learn to be Bully Busters!
I would like to introduce Haley, who was connected to Bully Buster USA as a result of her struggle being bullied. I have personally met Haley and was so impressed with how she has overcome the bullying she experienced and believe she is a great role model. I have asked her to quest write for me, and I am proud to share her first blog….
Hey guys…alright so this is my first ever blog day. I wasn’t really expecting to become a blogger, but sometimes things are really important and need to be addressed. But we will get to that in a little bit… first a little bit about me, just so you guys can sorta get to know me, through cyber space. Well, here we go. I’m 16, I live in southern California (no, its not as great as everyone pictures it, but yes, the weather is awesome) and I play high level volleyball. Like really high level. Like I-have-no-life-because-I’m-always-playing type of thing. But I love it anyways. I have always had all A’s at a super high level academic program. Until sophomore year, that is. Sophomore year is when things started to fall apart for me. My grades slipped, I started losing a lot of weight, I stopped working hard at volleyball and I became very withdrawn. Teachers noticed, and asked me if anything was wrong, or how they could help. “Is there something going on at home?” “Do you want to talk about it?” No. No. My absences spiked because I was sick all of the time. My parents would sometimes ask me what was wrong, but I just told them I was tired from a lot of work, and they accepted it. I stopped hanging out with people, and spent most days when I wasn’t playing volleyball up in my room drawing or blasting music. I became a burner, (like a cutter, but with matches instead of blades) and started contemplating suicide. Finally I broke down and told my parents what was going on. I was being bullied. Every time I went to school I had to face name calling, pushing, tripping, and laughing as I walked down the hallway. I didn’t have any friends to confide in, and was trying to tough it out. Eventually, I transferred schools and went to counseling to deal with what had happened to me. Eventually, I managed to pull my grades up and get my life back on track.
Here’s the thing guys, I almost ruined my life because I wouldn’t speak up about the bullying that I was experiencing. I know it’s hard. Believe me, I know, I had to deal with it. But honestly, no one should have to put up with any kind of bullying. That’s the reason that I decided to start writing this blog, because sometimes all it takes is one voice to start a change, to stand up to bullying, and to save a life.
“It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more ‘manhood’ to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.”
-Alex Karras
Please feel free to share your comments with Haley, and look for more of her thoughts to come!
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